In this country, sadly, we don't encourage advanced studies anywhere near as much as we should. In fact, it seems almost the opposite -- those who are passionate about hard science are the target of ridicule at best and victims of institutionalized physical abuse at the worst. And yet, while the stars of track and field can go on to become lawyers and own car dealerships, it is the nerds of the world that seem to make the difference -- people like Bill Gates and Steve Wozniak and, yes, Grace Hopper.
But can we afford this culture of anti-science where the brightest students are stuffed into lockers just for being smart? According to scientists at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, we cannot. And when it comes to girls, doubly not. "It is deemed uncool," the researchers wrote, "within the social context of USA middle and high schools to do mathematics for fun; doing so can lead to social ostracism. Consequently, gifted girls, even more so than boys, usually camouflage their mathematical talent to fit in well with their peers."
The problem is that "a majority of the top young mathematicians in this country were not born here," says Janet Mertz, the professor who led the study. "We are wasting this valuable resource," Mertz noted. "Girls can excel in math at the very highest level. There are some truly phenomenal women mathematicians out there."
She's right, of course. Since men are no longer banging women on the head and dragging them back to their caves, we need every great scientific mind we can get, regardless of what type of body it might be in.
When my generation of parents were growing up, computers were the size of minvans and no one had a cell phone. Today, kids tote laptops to camp and preschoolers know how to text.
It's a brave new world. It can also be a scary new world when your kid is surfing the 'net without you. But short of unplugging the desktop, how can you keep your kid safe?
SafetyClicks is here to help. SafetyClicks features articles, videos, and topical blog posts designed to support and inform parents as they teach their kids to navigate Web 2.0. SafetyClicks worked closely with ConnectSafely.org, a non-profit safety organization, to develop content that will teach kids how to be safe on line.
The Internet is here to say; it's our job to teach our kids to use it wisely and safely. SafetyClicks can help us do just that.
I have an iPhone; I bought it for work, but I have to admit that the Cool Factor was also important to me. I also must confess that it can do some pretty awesome things, most of which are not necessarily work-related, like checking Twitter or downloading music from my college days or seeing what's hot at Fashion Week. (Okay maybe that last one is kind of work related. Possibly.)
My kids are not allowed to mess with my iPhone. They don't watch videos on it or play games. Occasionally they get to check the weather, and if we are stuck somewhere waiting for something, they can flip through my pictures, and of course they sometimes get to talk on it. But beyond that (and those moments are very, very few) my iPhone is off limits. Completely.
But not all parents feel the way I do. Victor Agreda at TUAW lets his kids play with his iPhone, and it raises an interesting question about technology and kids, though: "what's the harm? Is there harm? I've limited their use to the inevitable 'we're waiting right now' moments. But still, no matter what we've done that day that was new and exciting, if my son plays with the iPhone for 5 minutes that's all Mom hears about when he's going to bed. ... I grew up with an Apple ][ in the house and I'm sure that had a hand in my love of tech. But there's also a case for letting kids find their own way, at an age-appropriate level. I cringe when they swing my naked iPhone around using iSaber, expecting Wii-style damage to our windows and the device itself. Yet I can't help but think that getting used to technology early -- something that will increasingly invade their lives as it becomes more embedded in our world -- is maybe a good thing. Everything in moderation, of course."
What about you -- do you let your kids play with your iPhone (or your Blackberry or whatever you're using these days) or is it off-limits? And what about the bigger point here, that technology is an inevitable part of our kids' lives? Is that true in your house, or not so much?
I use online chat services pretty regularly, both personally and professionally. I chat with my wife fairly frequently; it's less disruptive than a phone call and quicker too. I've also enjoyed the occasional chat with my six-year-old son. I chat with co-workers all the time, both individually and in groups.
I am a grown-up, however, with nearly three decades of experience in online communications (anyone remember Fidonet?), so I'm not worried about safety. When it comes to kids, however, it's another story. Kids haven't been around the block and they don't always realize that nearly every other fourteen-year-old on the internet is actually a forty-something guy.
If you're not overly familiar with the whole idea of chatting online, the SafetyClicks website has a nice introduction and some great advice on making sure your kids stay safe while chatting with friends. Most importantly, know who they're chatting with. I would even go so far as to say that kids shouldn't be participating in group chats until at least high school.
If your kids are starting to read and write, chatting with you once in a while can be a fun way to encourage that. But once they are old enough to use the computer on their own, parents need to make sure they stay safe. Check out the SafetyClicks guide for info on how to do that.
Welcome to Tried and True, a monthly feature where cool products are put through the ringer -- from our family to yours.
It's back to school season, and we can't think of a better time for checking out a new learning toy.
From LeapFrog's website: "The Tag Reading System revolutionizes the reading experience for children ages 4 to 8 by bringing storybooks to life. As children explore books with the Tag Reader, they encounter well-loved characters and leveled learning activities that adjust automatically to their own pace, helping their confidence and love of reading bloom."
Nineteen-month-old Aidan DeBeck is the latest child to beat the odds by surviving a scary fall. He fell 25 to 30 feet, the equivalent of three stories, from his playroom window and walked away with only bruises. His mom. Sara DeBeck, tells of how she left him in the third floor room to take a nap. "I put him in the playpen, which he's just started climbing out of," she said. "He wasn't really sleepy, so I gave him some books, put the gate up and turned on the monitor."
She went back downstairs to tend to her three-year-old but could hear Aidan quietly playing through the monitor. Then she heard a thump. She was confused as to the source of the sound until she noticed the playroom curtain laying on the ground outside.
She rushed out and found her son crying but seemingly unhurt. She called 911 and Aiden was transported via LifeFlight to the hospital. Aidan checked out okay and was released the next day. "In the end, he had no injuries at all," Sara DeBeck said. "It was just amazing."
She says that Aidan will no longer be allowed to be in that room alone when the window is open. That is all well and good, but I hope that isn't her entire plan for child-proofing her windows. Give a curious kid like Aidan enough time and he will be able to open that window by himself. Preventing window falls is as easy as installing window stops or guards. I hope the DeBecks do that very soon. It is a very small price to pay for peace of mind.
Brickhouse Child Safety and Duracell have teamed up in a new ad, one that starts out ominously, "It was a beautiful day in the park, that turned to panic in an instant..." A mom loses her son at the park, but fear is quickly turned to relief when she grabs her Brickhouse monitor and quickly finds her boy.
I had no idea such a device existed. Do parents really use these on their kids? Do they give you peace of mind? Or do you feel kind of weird about it like I do? When did a day at the park start requiring electronic monitoring?
It's not like this device would work for us. We'd be the family frantically searching through their bag for the device, arguing over who was supposed to bring it and why is it MY JOB TO REMEMBER EVERYTHING? while our "lost" child would suddenly reappear behind us and ask, "Hey, what are you guys doing?"
Watch the commercial below, then share your thoughts with us in comments.
Video games and kids -- you can argue about whether or not they make a good combination, but there's no question that the latter loves the former. But even if you don't approve of playing video games, writing them is certainly a different story. Only, how the heck does a kid learn to do that? Well, in North Carolina, they can do it by going to the library.
The main library in Charlotte, North Carolina is offering kids a summer workshop where they can learn the rudiments of video game design. Students have to decide where to place objects in the game, how high characters can jump, and how non-player characters react to the players' characters. Naturally, the four-day sessions only touch on high-level concepts, but they serve to get kids interested and off to a good start.
Kids like video games and learning to create them is a great way to get kids interested in software development -- a fun (for the first twenty-five years or so, anyway) and lucrative career path. It's great that the library is offering this introduction; I only wish it was the norm rather than the exception.
Lots of little boys dream of careers in law enforcement. In preparation, they spend hours playing cop, arresting their little friends and writing tickets. But this sort of pretend police work is just child's play for Landon Wilburn of Louisville, Kentucky. He found an effective way to actually enforce the law and has become a neighborhood hero because of it.
Like a lot of subdivisions, the one where 11-year-old Landon lives has a problem with cars speeding through the streets. Residents have complained to police and Landon and his friends regularly yell at drivers to slow down. But when these efforts failed, Landon came up with a better idea. He got out his Hot Wheels toy radar gun, donned a bright orange vest, and grabbed his siren-equipped flashlight. He set himself up on the side of the street and began tracking the speed of passing cars.
Yeah, it's a toy but it actually works! The speed limit in Landon's neighborhood is 25 mph, but he clocked some cars going close to 55 mph. At least they were until they spotted what they assumed was a police officer with a radar gun aimed at them. Neighbor George Ayers says, "When I saw it happening, I got the biggest kick out of it. People were locking up their brakes when they saw him."
Fortunately, Landon may soon find his radar gun is no longer needed. After commissioning a study on speeding in the area, speed humps are being installed in the neighborhood.
When answering machines first became affordable, I ran right out and got one. How great to be able to communicate with others without having to actually talk to them! These days, of course, our options for impersonal communication have increased. With the advent of email, instant messaging and text-messaging, one could conceivably go for days without actually having to speak to another person. According to this article, such non-verbal communication has big-time appeal for the average teenager.
Stephen Saiz, manager of consumer insight and strategy of the Walt Disney Internet Group's North American mobile division, says that text-messaging has become a handy parent-avoidance device for many teens. "Teens are pushing their parents to go on mobile because they don't really want to communicate with them directly," he said.
Because of this, more and more parents are jumping on the texting bandwagon. Saiz says that most of the older people using their cell phone mobile applications are mothers who were pushed into the world of texting by their kids. And why don't kids want to talk to mom on the phone? Saiz believes it is due to the fact that they are busy pursuing much more important activities: playing video games and hanging with their friends.
Does this happen to you? Do you call your child's phone only to end up in voice mail? Does your kid respond to you with a text message? Is this okay with you?
Bluetooth headsets -- the little wireless telephone gadgets -- are all the rage these days, even more so now that some sort of hands free device is required by law in order to use a cellphone while driving in California. At first, advocates for the deaf thought the fad was a good thing because it would make kids with cochlear implants stand out less.
The implants consist of two parts -- an internal, surgically implanted receiver and an external unit with a microphone, computer, and transmitter. Unfortunately, there is a downside to the bluetooth craze -- the units get stolen right off of people's heads. While it must suck to have a $50 or $100 cellphone accessory stolen, having a $6,000 device that lets a kid hear stolen is downright terrible.
But that's what has happened to three-year-old Jose Franco -- twice. Jose was only two when he received his cochlear implant and the device has helped him learn to speak (he's even bilingual) and sing. One day, while shopping at a grocery store, someone snatched the external unit from his head and took off with it. His mother, Hilda Giron, left him with a cashier and chased the thieves. She didn't catch the boys, but she did find the earpiece in the parking lot, still intact.
Last week, however, two teenagers grabbed the headset while Jose and his mother were having lunch at McDonald's. This time, the crooks got away. Luckily, Jose has a backup unit, but his family will be responsible for replacing the lost device. It's bad enough to take away someone's bicycle or iPod or even their computer, but to take away a child's hearing is a special kind of horrible. Hopefully, the thieves will realize that what they stole is of no use to anyone but little Jose and return it.
Every generation thinks they have it tougher than the one before. And, you know what? They probably do. Like the new iphone, every generation is expected to be smarter, faster, better, and thinner than the last. So it is with teenagers, teenage girls to be exact. It's no newsflash to anyone who's ever been a teenager that being one is full of pressure. I remember an ad I saw in a women's magazine when I was a teen that resonates with me to this day: You can never be too rich or too thin (bonus points to any of you who remember what product that ad was selling).
Current research shows that not only such magazines but now too the wonderful world wide web are contributing to making girls feel miserable with regard to being, well, as rich and as thin as possible. In the Generation Under Stress Report, two out of five teenage girls felt more poorly about themselves after looking at pictures of models, music stars and actresses in magazines. And the pressure doesn't end there. Girls also reported feeling pressure to act and dress more like adults, to be sexually active before they were ready and to invest in expensive material items like Ipods, cell phones and brand-name clothing and accessories (what teenager NEEDS a Prada bag?). Add that to the eating disorders and bullying and you have a recipe for disaster.
So what do we do? Send our teenage girls off to the convent? If you have the answer, please let me know--I am about to have a daughter and am feeling the pressure before she's even been born. Not too long ago I saw a onesie that said, "Does this outfit make my butt look big?" HELP!
I think some people are convinced that I had kids only so I could justify a top-of-the-line camera, but it's not true -- I also needed someone to take pictures of. Taking pictures of people -- especially kids -- can be challenging, however. Making them look better than the standard kid-in-a-frame shot is even more difficult.
To help with this, the Digital Photography School has put together ten ways to kick your photos up a notch. Some of these techniques we see a lot in the Images of the Day here on ParentDish, but I know I don't always stop and think about what makes these images so special. Now DPS has spelled it out for you, with stunning examples of each.
One tip I can offer -- hold your camera sideways next to your knee, with your finger on the trigger. Pretend to be looking straight ahead, even though the camera is actually pointed at your subject on your right. Make sure you're far enough away that your subject will be in the picture even if your aim is off. For kids, this not only catches them off guard, it also puts the camera down at their level.
So there you go -- ten tips plus a bonus one (don't ever say we don't go the extra mile -- or extra tip, anyway -- for you here at ParentDish!) Now, go forth and photograph!
About a month ago my husband was playing around with one of our son's toys and realized it was censored. The toy in question is a Leap Frog brand caterpillar called an Alphabet Pal with letters on each of its twenty-six legs. Among the things you can do with the caterpillar are set it to play different kinds of music (each leg plays a different song) and say the letters on the legs. You can also set it to pronounce the sound the letter makes when it is spoken. So, if you hit the leg with the letter "B" on it, you hear "Buh." As a joke my husband tried to sound out a dirty word. The caterpillar denied him! Instead, if you, say, try to sound out "fff" then "ugh" you get a "heh heh, that tickles!" before the caterpillar will pronounce the "kuh."
Now, I can assume my kiddo isn't going to be using this caterpillar to sound out dirty words. Most children who are the age the caterpillar is designed for--between one and two years of age--don't even know what those are. But it still brings up an interesting point: Isn't that censorship? I mean, whoever designed this toy, which is a lot of fun and a great educational tool (it also says the colors of each letter on each leg in another setting), had to think that someone like my husband would try some funny business and came up with a plan to avoid the caterpillar saying bad things.
I'm starting to wonder if this was a one-time thing or if all toys of this nature are set to ensure they don't spell or say dirty words. Also, who decides such things? And does that person get to decide what constitutes a dirty word and what doesn't? At home with television and the Internet, for example, parents can set their own standards for what their children are allowed to watch and read or look at. The maker of this toy did that for us. Thoughts??? Should companies be censoring toys for us or are they doing the job of the parents?
In this country, sadly, we don't encourage advanced studies anywhere near as much as we should. In fact, it seems almost the opposite -- those who are passionate about hard science are the target of ridicule at best and victims of institutionalized physical abuse at the worst. And yet, while the stars of track and field can go on to become lawyers and own car dealerships, it is the nerds of the world that seem to make the difference -- people like Bill Gates and Steve Wozniak and, yes, Grace Hopper.
When my generation of parents were growing up, computers were the size of minvans and no one had a cell phone. Today, kids tote laptops to camp and preschoolers know how to text.
I have an iPhone; I bought it for work, but I have to admit that the Cool Factor was also important to me. I also must confess that it can do some pretty awesome things, most of which are not necessarily work-related, like checking Twitter or downloading music from my college days or seeing what's hot at Fashion Week. (Okay maybe that last one is kind of work related. Possibly.)
I use online chat services pretty regularly, both personally and professionally. I chat 
Welcome to Tried and True, a monthly feature where cool products are put through the ringer -- from our family to yours.
Nineteen-month-old Aidan DeBeck is the 
Video games and kids -- you can argue about whether or not they make a good combination, but there's no question that the latter loves the former. But even if you don't approve of playing video games, writing them is certainly a different story. Only, how the heck does a kid learn to do that? Well, in North Carolina, they can do it by 
Lots of little boys dream of careers in law enforcement. In preparation, they spend hours playing cop, arresting their little friends and writing tickets. But this sort of pretend police work is just child's play for Landon Wilburn of Louisville, Kentucky. He found an effective way to actually enforce the law and has become a neighborhood hero because of it.
When answering machines first became affordable, I ran right out and got one. How great to be able to communicate with others without having to actually talk to them! These days, of course, our options for impersonal communication have increased. With the advent of email, instant messaging and text-messaging, one could conceivably go for days without actually having to speak to another person. According to 
Bluetooth headsets -- the little wireless telephone gadgets -- are all the rage these days, even more so now that some sort of hands free device is 
I think some people are convinced that I had kids only so I could justify a top-of-the-line camera, but it's not true -- I also needed someone to take pictures of. Taking pictures of people -- especially kids -- can be challenging, however. Making them look better than the standard kid-in-a-frame shot is even more difficult.
